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When I was 17, just before my final year of high school, the Painted Cave Fire consumed over 600 structures, including our family home. First lesson in impermanence. As I watch the destruction and suffering associated with the Palisades Fire in LA, I track those friends and family under mandatory evacuation, while still others spend sleepless nights with the flames …

I recently reinvented my work schedule. It was an idea that began to marinate months ago as my father faded away in front of me, gaining momentum in his final days. It required taking a big risk, and being willing to live with the consequences if things did not go my way. The decision to act was rooted in the …

I’ve been through some recent tumultuous events that made me more volatile around those I love, and in an attempt to learn new tools to manage that volatility, I’m a student all over again. Here’s a simple overview of pattern recognition skills I am trying to develop in order to ensure I get a handle on my reactions in moments …

On my morning bike ride, I pass a number of homes that like to go all out on the holiday decorations. Holiday decor never been my bag, although I have fond memories of making a paper mache spider one Halloween long ago with my daughter, and crafting a DIY piñata with a couple of toddlers certainly made for one of …

The surgeon general declared that the US suffers from an epidemic of loneliness. Our society’s emphasis on self-sufficiency and rugged individualism certainly place us at risk for alienation. A growing body of literature has emerged suggesting that the connections that determine whether an individual feels isolated or enmeshed with their community comes not only from the deep social contacts, but …

[This piece was written some time ago. Publication was held until after the trial concluded.] I began this week with a fear of the unknown. I am going to trial for the first time in my career. The weird part is that it is for the legacy of a career I’d already left behind. Nearly three years ago, I made …

Long ago, I dated a woman with an unusual family custom. She and her family were privately nudists at home – parents and multiple siblings hung out together in the buff. While I don’t quite come from Puritan stock, it was a very foreign experience to hear her accounts of her upbringing (I never witnessed it, and can’t say if …

In junior high school, we were asked to investigate the topic of our choice and to provide both a written and an oral report for English class. At the time I was dating a cute 7th grade classmate whose parents were divorced, so I ambitiously selected the topic, “Children of Divorce.” I recall checking a not very good book from …

It’s been a year since I lost my father. I recall his last day with clarity. I arrived at the hospice early, shortly after my mother. Dad was lucid, in good spirits, happy to see me. We discussed the middle of the night solo foray to the bathroom that had left his oxygen tubing detached from him after catching on …

It arrived when I was most expecting it but least prepared to handle it: the parental obsolescence of adolescence. It’s inaccurate to say the kids don’t need me, because they do. They simply don’t have time for me outside of those very specific moments when they need only me. I’ve become a hex wrench – critically useful for a very …